Sunday, 10 May 2009

Six Weeks to Summer



Any excuse for another clip of Robert Downey Jr dancing, but today's the first day of our six week countdown to summer, and it sounds like a lot of us will be working on getting our groove back just as he did :) When the six weeks runs until is up to you - those of us with kids have UK half term 25th May - 31st so I'm allowing an extra week as nothing will get done then, and plan to have achieved my three goals by 28th June. As the old saying goes 'you will never change your life until you change something you do daily'. This is a chance to think about what you want to do more and less of. Each Sunday will be a chance to check in on each other's progress, share tips, advice, celebrate, commiserate and decide on our mini-goals for the coming week.

Hopefully it's going to be fun. I don't know about you but I have just had it with feeling things are beyond my control, so instead of throwing a Violet Elizabeth 'it's not fair!' tantrum I'm going to work on what I can do right now. I'm tired, and tired of waiting for change. Working in a group is a proven recipe for success, so together I reckon we can do a lot. If you don't want to share your goals in today's comments, you don't have to but it might make you even more determined. For the record here are mine:

1) EASY apply for my MA Creative writing. Well - applying is easy, being accepted is another thing. I've wanted to do this for over ten years. It's going to take three years part time evening study but it's the only way I can do it while caring for a young family, and I reckon it might keep me out of trouble and my hand on the page while I'm waiting for publishers to regain their interest in debut authors :) There's still so much I want to learn about writing, and as Carol Ann Duffy the new, (and first ever female) Poet Laureate is the creative director I reckon Manchester is the most interesting place in the country to study right now.

2) MID how many fitness DVDs have you got at home? If, like me, you believe you will obtain abs of steel by some magical osmosis simply because you have bought the latest pilates disk, you are in good company. My goal is to get back to exercising everyday (pilates, yoga, long hikes with the hound :) Writer's ass is an occupational hazard for all of us who spend hours slumped in front of the desk. I gave the pilot Haruki Murakami's new book about running yesterday - he wrote 'pain is inevitable, suffering optional'. Mm - maybe leave off the marathons for the first week eh?

3) HARD I'm going to start writing my first entirely new book in years. Each of the previous three had their roots in ideas going back ten years or so. This is something new, and I'm really excited by it. I'm aiming for 2000 words a day, and by the end of the six weeks want a partial ready to submit. Who cares if publishers aren't taking risks right now - they will eventually, and I want to be ready. I believe in my work, and know I'll work my backside off to make a success of it when I get that break. In the meantime I'm going to have some fun writing the best book I can right now.

So - over to you. What have you all got planned? I'm definitely more of a carrot than a stick type person so today as you're planning your goals and mini-goals, why don't you focus on the resources you have to hand that can help you (the people, books, videos, art materials, whatever), and the rewards you are going to give yourself as you achieve each goal. One of my favourite quotes is 'effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit'. Six weeks. What is there to lose? Nothing - and if we keep going one word, one step at a time there is everything to gain.

TODAY'S PROMPT: As you plot out your three major goals for the next six weeks, you could take Susie's great advice and choose easy, medium and hard goals. I'd recommend pencilling off part of your journal or diary to focus on your goals - somehow just putting your plans down in black and white makes your resolve stronger. Try and make your goals positive: 'I want to be fit and slim for summer' rather than 'I don't want to be hiding behind a windbreak on the beach'. Write yourself some affirmations - visualise, use that writerly imagination for your own good for a change. Write yourself a mission statement: 'I, x, am ...' Put everything you want in the present tense. See, and imagine how good you will feel at the end of six weeks if you hit your targets. And if you are planning to lose weight, keeping a food journal of what you eat (as boring as it is), and to plan your meals is one of the best ways to do it. Whatever you want to achieve, each Sunday plan out a couple of mini-goals for the week that will take you closer to your big goal. We're talking baby steps - one choice, one action at a time. The idea of 'progress not perfection' is relevant when you're aiming at any big goal. Estes talked about how it is not the single act but a continuation of those small acts that achieves the goal: as she said, 'Water drips through stone'. Have a great week, and I can't wait to hear about your goals.

27 comments:

Misssy M said...

I've had such a horrible week doing a horrible job in a horrible atmosphere, at one point I thought of coming back to the UK after my Canada trip and telling my work that I'd work out the notice of my contract. I've sobered up now, and I'm not going to be too hasty. The Flying M's do still have to eat, after all.

But a new goal will help. Last week I announced on Twitter to anyone who'd listen that I'd write at least 1,000 words a day on my personal projects. For now that's my goal - it doesn't sound much but when you're doing maybe 4 times that a day on work projects it can take a lot to force yourself back to the desk at the end of the day. But until I do it and until I get some of my personal stuff finished I'm not really in a position to be whinging about the corporate writing/directing I do for living.

Kate Lord Brown said...

Good to be home then Misssy?! and great to have you on board. 1000 words is a brilliant goal (esp when you are writing for work too). Editorial/corporate writing is exactly the kind of thing I need to find right now ... as you say mouths to feed, backs to clothe and not a glimmer yet on the book deal. So hang in there, one day when we're on the bestseller lists we'll look back etc etc ..:)

Vodka Mom said...

Just stopped to say Happy Mother's Day!!!

Susie said...

That was a fabulous video, Kate. I think it reminds anyone watching not to forget to have some fun.

Now to the goals and I'll stick with your date for completion
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Easy - Well being
Meditate every morning and night. I already do this but not every day and it's usually when I need it that I don't find time to fit it in. Included in this is visualising what I want out of life.
Medium - Writing
Finish the second draft of my novel, fill out the timeline and character sketches. Yes, I know it's the wrong way round and I should have done the timeline etc before the novel but I wanted to get the plot down. At the end of six weeks I'll be ready to start on the third draft. Also just to keep my hand in, send off a story to a magazine and one to a competition.
Hard - Health
Lose 1 stone. That's all I'm saying on this one except this time I'm going to do it.

Good luck to everyone.
I'll check in next week

Gaston Studio said...

Loved the video and Downey's cavalier attitude!

For the next 6 weeks, I'll be working on search engine optimization (SOE) for my online boutique and it's a very tedious, frustrating kind of work, but absolutely necessary. And I suspect I may still be doing this for a couple of months at least.

Good luck to you!

Ava said...

I've set my goals. That was actually harder than I had expected! I begin tomorrow (I believe in Mondays). I'll let you know!

Marta said...

Okay.

First goal, continue with the art. I now have my art hanging in a shop and I plan to keep going to that good fortune as long as I can. This includes making art the shop owner thinks will work in her establishment, trying to get more commissions, and perhaps trying to make greeting cards or prints or some such thing.

Second goal, keep querying agents--though as my latest blog post indicates, I'm finding that I bit dispiriting. BUT NEVER GIVE UP.

Third, stop getting angry and frustrated with my son for a problem he's having. Find a solution.

Fourth, apply for an MFA program. Right? Well, decide if this is the right move for me. I have no time to study for the GRE. Make a decision!

I'd like to exercise more, find more time for fun, figure out what my son is going to do this summer, find that fun I used to have teaching...

That's enough for now, don't you think?

Get more sleep. Ha-ha-ha-ha.

Kate Lord Brown said...

Thank you VM - and hope all the US Moms had a great day yesterday x

Bravo Susie! There are some great goals there (admire your ability to meditate, classic butterfly/monkey mind here ..:) Good luck with your minigoals!
PS I love how writers go for the motherload - no wussing around with I'd like to lose a couple of pounds for summer. We're all going for the 1st - bravo!

Kate Lord Brown said...

Hello Gaston - yes, can't he just move?! One of those dull but necessary goals? Good luck! (and why not set yourself a couple of fun goals as a reward for the hard work?)

Ava - well done! It does focus your mind doesn't it? Good luck with this week.

Marta - hang in there. Think we're both going through a bit of a bleak blip with writing. Hope the six weeks will give us a good step up in the right directions. Great goals, and lot's of them - breaking them down into achievable chunks will get the ball rolling - good luck!

Gorilla Bananas said...

Keeping you butt in shape should always be a high priority. Would it be possible to write by speaking into tape recorder while peddling on an exercise bike?

Kate Lord Brown said...

Yes, I imagine as a gorilla yours is a perfect specemin GB, not so we poor human writers who spend most of the day sitting on ours and have to work at it to keep those glutes perky. Shall look into the cycling/dictaphone suggestion - if it's good enough for GB it's good enough for me :)

Emily said...

i am trying to get one article or proposal out a week, launch the new book blog, and not lose any of the children.

JES said...

Hi Kate - good video choice, as always, although I've never warmed to Jack Black and this didn't change my mind on that score. :)

Like you say, goals can cripple as well as ease progress, if they're not chosen carefully. Everyone who's posted here so far seems focused on real, achievable things rather than moving mountains; I love seeing that!

OTOH I hate talking about my own goals too much, even though they're reasonable. I'm pretty good at meeting them -- The Missus says she doesn't know anybody who is so single-minded about meeting my own expectations (or she says something like that, anyhow; it's been a while since she said it, which makes me wonder if I should touch base with her now!). But for me, announcing them publicly seems to push them juuuuust over the edge, where there's just a drop too much pressure. It immobilizes me.

Moot the Hoopla said...

If you fail to plan you plan to fail.

I always lose 17 pounds every summer but I gain about 22 every winter..you do the math...it might snow again on Friday so it's not really Spring yet.

This Summer I'm converting my vacuum into a do-it-yourself liposuction machine so I can eliminate suffering through those tedious sit-ups..which are impossible to do when you're snacking in front of the TV!

Last year publishers gave a $2.5-million advance to a local unknown writer Andrew Davidson for his debut novel, The Gargoyle.
I imagine they must be lurking about in search of the next big thing...hey how about sparkly teenage vampires?

Kate Lord Brown said...

Hi Emily - ha! Yes, as soon as you turn your attention to something else, off they go ...

Hi John - yes, achievable is in, beyond your control goals (mm publishing contracts for example) out. That's why I suggested some people might want to make their goals privately and come along for the ride. Putting mine out there seemed like the honourable thing to do after suggesting this ... failure not an option now ;)

Welcome Moot - this time next year you'll be a millionaire! Cornering the market in DIY lipo and sparkly vampires a good move :)

Kate Lord Brown said...

BTW Moot like the new profile pic (more Ming the Merciless than M the H?!)

EmmaK said...

Must lose 15lb of weight in six weeks to look good in swimming costume - think how hard it is here - the pool opens in TWO WEEKS!! No I look okay but could stand to lose the ring around stomach. Any tips that don't involve celery sticks or chewing your food fifty times?

Kate Lord Brown said...

Hi Emma - bravo! Two weeks - yikes. But six weeks for 15lbs perfectly reasonable. Maybe everyone can chip in with their ideas? Tessa has just lost twice that (wow) so no doubt has some good advice?

What works for me at least is 3 balanced meals a day with protein at every meal, no bread, no booze, salt, chocolate, sugar (yawn). Only eat til comfortably full, if you think you're hungry have a glass of water first (half time apparently your body can't tell the difference between thirst and hunger). No carbs after 6pm. Snack on fruit, zero sugar sweets if you're missing sweet stuff. If you can stand to give up coffee that seems to work miracles for some reason ... 30 mins exercise each day (anything that gets your heart rate up ..;) Keeping a big pot of home made veggie soup in the fridge that you can have any time you get hungry. Hot water with fresh lemon, ginger and spoonful of honey first thing with a good probiotic multivit. 2 boxes of Epsom salts in hot bath at bedtime a couple of nights a week - will sleep like a baby and the magnesium v good apparently. Body brushing and full bod massage each day to tone up (the fun part - draft in Mr Emma :) Bet you're sorry you asked now?! I chucked out every diet book I ever bought six months ago - this regime (if I can summon up the willpower) works and it can be a way of life with the odd 'slip' and correction.

Anyone else got any tips?

Kate Lord Brown said...

PS for the sake of full disclosure should add I am writing with a celebratory glass of wine at my side and the aroma of bhajis, curry and naan bread wafting through from the kitchen (pilot's home, he's cooking). The 'bootcamp' tips above work but if you're in it for the longhaul you need to be flexible ... Main secret is to treat it as something good (making you feel better) than a punishment. It's a simple mental flip but it works wonders - imagine yourself in six weeks time feeling fabulous. Of all the diet rubbish I've ever read two quotes have stayed: 'never trade what you want the most for what you want today' (umm ... Ben & Jerry's?) and from wafffer thin Steve Tyler of Aerosmith who obviously knows what he is talking about 'nothing tastes as good as slim feels' :)

EmmaK said...

Thanks Kate - your regime sounds like torture but I'm going to try it. I know what you mean, if you cut out sugar you lose your sweet tooth. Or that's the theory at least. I really don't think I can go without coffee yet. Baby steps!

Kate Lord Brown said...

Exactly - one step at a time. Low on willpower at the moment here (know I left it lying around here somewhere) ... but it does work and what's more once you get into it you feel fantastic.

Megan said...

Kate! I'm just coming to the end of my 3 years with MMU - it's been incredibly valuable in so many ways, I've met great, great people. I absoloutely loved it, I'm sure you will too.

Here, my end of term goal finish draft 2, restart the agent hunt
xxxx

Kate Lord Brown said...

Megan congratulations! It seems like a great course (and I hope they'll take me). Good luck with the 2nd draft - it's a great stage when the story is there and you're fine tuning isn't it?

Pseudonymous High School Teacher said...

First of all, hop eyou had a fabulous Mother's Day...do you have the same date as us?

I like your approach Kate. I am going to write mine down today, but they will need a month (finishing the quarter to get to it). I started over spring break with exercising, and would like to add in meditation, and then writing beyond the blog. For now, i try to write something that takes more than a first draft once a week on the blog.

Kate Lord Brown said...

Thanks Pseudo - hope you also had a lovely day (ours is different in the UK but don't mind celebrating twice!)

Great stuff - do admire all you guys who can meditate. Maybe I should give it another crack (tried transcendental with a friend at uni and we were asked to leave for giggling ...) Oh dear.

Christy said...

I really like this idea of three (easy, mid and hard) goals for the next six weeks. That seems more realistic than other ideas I've been bouncing around in my head.

Easy - prepare at least one new meal a week - hopefully will be successful and can add to my menu rotation

Mid - write something substantial (for my blog, and the one I guest write on) twice a week

Hard - weights twice a week and either running, swimming or biking five times a week. I need to get my heart pumping again!

Kate Lord Brown said...

Hi Christy - excellent! Great idea to try new menus this time of the year with all the lovely seasonal veg coming in (mm asparagus at the moment!) Yes, funny how all of us are finding the exercise tough ..:)

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